Your child will accept and respect your hardness if you show them an equal amount of softness. Too much hard or too much soft will result in acting out behaviors that are equally obnoxious. Your kids need to know that regardless of how many times you place restrictions on their activities, veto their attire, or deny them access to the piercing needle, you got their back! The counselor at my daughter’s school told her that the pre-calculus class was full and she would have to take ART instead. WHAT!!!!! My daughter said, “My mother will not be happy with that, I would like to make an appointment for her to come in tomorrow at 7:00 am.” The counselor said “Don’t you want to check that time with her first?” My daughter said “Nope, she’ll be here.” And, I was.
You may not win every battle, but they need to see you fighting.