“Fair” is a 4 letter word that normally means “You let Junior do it” or “It’s not my turn”, or “All the other kids are doing it”, or “How come he got 2 donuts and I only got one” or ……… I’m sure that you are starting to get the picture. In the minds of our children, “Fair” normally means that a grave injustice has been committed against them. When my oldest was born the doctor said “I hope she’s tall with those big feet.” WHAT!!!!!! My perfect baby has big feet –SMH. He was right and those feet grew a size every six months. As a result, I was always buying her new shoes. My youngest would always ask the same question, “Am I getting new shoes too?’ My answer would always be the same “Do you NEED new shoes?” Of course, she would always respond with “That’s not “&%$#.”
Parents, fair treatment does not mean equal treatment. Don’t feel obligated to do for all what you do for one. But, take specific steps to ensure that you provide experiences that meet everyone’s needs in an equitable fashion. Sometimes being fair is not “&%$#.”
A special thanks to my cousin Claudia for inspiring this post.