Comments on: “&%$#” – The dreaded 4 letter word http://kidcatraz.com/2013/10/the-dreaded-four-letter-word Kids and parenting Sun, 18 May 2014 15:03:13 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.40 By: Doctor J http://kidcatraz.com/2013/10/the-dreaded-four-letter-word#comment-99 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 22:14:45 +0000 http://kidcatraz.com/?p=183#comment-99 JR,

I think that my approach to “Fair vs. Equal” is very simple. I use their words against them You know how they are always saying “I’m not like him, I’m my own person.” Well, then don’t ask me to treat you like him/her!!!!!!!!! You may not be the most popular parent, but you will provide equality in a fair manner. They will begin to expect nothing less.

Thoughts?

]]> By: JR http://kidcatraz.com/2013/10/the-dreaded-four-letter-word#comment-94 Sun, 20 Oct 2013 20:30:58 +0000 http://kidcatraz.com/?p=183#comment-94 How do children process fair vs need, vs. want vs. gotta have vs, you don’t love me as much? This is easier said than done in my opinion. When you have a melded family and you try to be fair and proportionately equal, the perception is that you are exhibiting favoritism. In addition, understanding “age appropriateness” is also quite difficult to manage. “Johnny, you do not need a computer or IPad. You are too young.” Do you recommend sitting with your kids and talking about it? Jane needs shoes this month Johnny. Next month we’ll get or do something special with you,” type of conversation. Or, rotate the goodies so each has something to look forward to or enable them to fulfill their individual needs by providing them with an allowance which encourages saving to get what they want/need. Your thoughts Dr. J?

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