Comments on: Are you smarter than a 9th grader?

By: Dr. J

Dr. J — Wed, 02 Oct 2013 02:15:10 +0000

Denise

In a previous post, I mentioned that I allowed my children to make all of the decisions that did not impact me directly. I used the example of hair cutting. If my daughter wanted to shave her head bald, no problem. There are natural consequences associated with that action (Peer Reviews). But, if she decided not to attend school, big problem because the authorities would seek answers from me. You would be surprised how many of their actions directly or indirectly impact your life.

Like you, my involvement in the decision making process lessened as they got older. But, guess what – they were always thinking – WWMD (What Would Mommie Do).

By: Denise Jackson-Roberts

Denise Jackson-Roberts — Tue, 01 Oct 2013 21:29:44 +0000

I am sure your girls are grateful for all of the decisions you have made for them and the decisions you made on their behalf. It is good they will not endure the debt resulting from continued education. I believe it is important to convey our knowledge and experiences to our children. I tell my kids I can save you time if you just listen; however, they wanted to create their own experiences, good and bad. There have been failures and successes, but they own it. Of course, when they were young, when it was important to provide them with a foundation, there was little room for discussion.. We made the important decisions for them. As they grew, physically and in maturity, they gradually worked toward their independence. We would discuss situations and the consequences and they made their decisions accordingly. How did you advise your children on the decision making process? It seems like your consequences were in the “But.”

By: Doctor J

Doctor J — Sat, 14 Sep 2013 23:30:07 +0000

Hi TW,

Thank you for the response. Do I have dating advice – 2 girls – you bet!!!!! Stay tuned.

Dr. J

By: TW

TW — Sat, 14 Sep 2013 21:12:02 +0000

This is great advice. Will you in a future blog share your advice on dating?

By: Cantasha Russell

Cantasha Russell — Thu, 12 Sep 2013 03:36:34 +0000

Good one